Great Impulsive Decisions

When I turned my focus to how and where I'd like to celebrate my 40th, I had to look for somewhere that T would be able to come with me. I decided on Costa Dorada as it had Port Aventura theme park and we always said we'd go there at some point.

When researching the area, I found out Barcelona was an hour away so I immediately went on FC Barcelona website to check if any matches would be playing while we were there. There was!!! I didn't even think about it, I just booked!

That impulsive decision has proved to be one of my best!

Originally I started hoping Barcelona would win La Liga so we would see the cup presentation as it was the last game of the season. But when I mentioned this to a friend he said I should be wishing that both teams would be in a chance as this would make the game better.

I then started praying for things I never in a million years would have wanted:-

• That both teams would be in it to win it
• That Real Madrid would lose a match and drop out of the title race
• For the match to be on the Saturday

And lo and behold, the football god answered all those prayers with a yes!

Now we're going to watch a match that almost every guy I know is drooling over.

 

     

For the La Liga Title!!!!!!!! 

Who would have thought it possible way back in October when I booked the tickets?

Great game, here we come!

40 and Single

These days with my birthday fast approaching, every time I mention my age, the question I get asked the most is "Don't you think it's time you get married and settle down?". My answer is always, why?

Why should my age mean that I need to get hitched? Shouldn't it be a case of meeting the person that is capable of loving and living with your faults? I have no desire to ever get divorced and as such will never get married just to get married!

I've already said no twice and I'll keep saying it until the person asking proves that he can cope with  ALL my faults and I can live with his.

The problem for me though is I've already met that person but unfortunately he came into my life when we were too young and circumstances split us before we could go down that road.

I'm now hoping that what they say about everyone having three great loves is true. If it is, I have 20 years in which to meet at least one of the other two.

And in the mean time, I'll have fun looking!!!!

Embarrassing or what?

Originally when I first thought about writing a blog, it was because I was constantly being asked questions regarding the caring and styling of my newfound natural hair.
I wanted to not have to answer these questions over and over but to be able to direct the person asking to a source where they could just pick up the information.

However I decided to take a more general view and made no attempt to remedy the lack of hair mentions and probably wouldn't have if I hadn't been put in an embarrassing position today.

I went into a shop today and when I got to the checkout, the girl instead of scanning my items, started in on me about my hair. She even called a couple of her coworkers over and the whole thing was becoming more embarrassing by the minute! All I kept thinking was, 'this could have been avoided with a website address'.

In most situations, I wouldn't have minded chatting and explaining my routine especially as the first girl said that the way my hair looks, she is going to a hairdresser to cut her hair on the weekend.
I mean, I would have felt good! The problem was the shop was Ann Summers!!! Now staff and customers alike know ALL my business!

I think that from now on, hair tips will definitely be a priority!

Run? Looks more like walk!

As part of the need to create a healthier me, I've been doing a running program which is designed to get couch-potatoes, such as myself, moving. It's called Couch to 5k and more information can be found here.


I've just completed week 7 and I've got to say, I'm feeling quite proud!

On my first run of the week I was really going for it with arms and everything, fully at my limit when I caught my reflection in a building I was running past.

I almost stopped!

There I was thinking that Usain Bolt would never catch me! And my reflection looked like someone taking a leisurely stroll!

Luckily, the voice in my ear spoke to me at that moment and said, "running is not so much about speed but more about building endurance and stamina". It couldn't have come at a better time! I carried on and by the end of the week I was covering a lot more distance at each time check.

I've now made it a point of duty not to look at my reflection as I run past.

I will complete the plan and become the healthier version of me that I'm striving for!

Online Dating

Most people I know get scared about online dating thinking you'll only find weirdos and perverts.

Truth be told, you'll find those on the bus/train, walking on the street, church, club, etc. Wherever you meet someone, the potential is there for them to be a mass murderer or rapist. The same dating rules apply wherever you meet them, male or female. Until you actually get to know someone you'll never know what they will or won't do.

Recently though, I've been coming across quite a few people in happy relationships where they met their partner online so thought I'd give it a try. 

With the help of a work colleague I got set up online and started getting messages. Ok, most of the guys actually seemed to be there just to find someone to have sex with but you figure out those ones pretty quick and stay clear of them. 

Anyway, after much conversing, finally gave a guy my number and we arranged a meeting at a nice pub that serves food as well. We met, started chatting and all was going great! Conversation got around to our kids and we started showing pictures. Showed him a pic of T and he called my son by his full name!!!!!!!

I was so shocked! He knew my son from church which also meant he knew my ex! All I wanted was for the ground to open up and swallow me. The only good thing after that was hearing how my son is a blessed child and how all the church members love him. 

Turns out I went online to find someone who lives 10 mins away. And knows my son! There I was finally thinking I could stop being "T's mom" only to find I can't run from it. 

The point I'm trying to make is there are nice guys online and if this guy hadn't known my son, we would have at least gone out once more.

Having all my friends laughing and saying I'm the only person that could happen to has put me off trying again. But never say never! 

What comes after 40?

May is here and I'm about to be 40!

For most people, this would seem like a major disaster and a time to panic!


Truth be told, this is the birthday I've been looking forward to the most!

In fact, I'm now panicking about what will happen after the big day because I've never given much thought to even one day after I turn 40!

I'm now being forced to make contingency plans as it now looks as if life will continue after.

I've chopped all my hair off and gone natural, started running and swimming and also trying to make myself eat a proper balanced diet.

Hopefully life after d-day, or should I say b-day, will be the beginning of a more balanced, healthier , happier me!!!

Here's to 40!!!